The response "Oh Lawdy" was taken (by you, in fact,) but I feel like this is worthy of a response. If nothing else, I'd like to make an argument that dismisses your argument that erotica as a whole objectifies women Zooey on the premise of being erotica.
Of course, I'll preface this by admitting that these stories are something I mostly enjoy because I find them arousing. And I've contributed to a fair number of scenarios that are taboo, by no stretch of the mind. But I'm also not someone whose life and behaviours have been consumed by this recreation. I, along with most people who look at this material, don't let this type of thing influence my personality or sexual habits. It's an escape, nothing else.
This is important because when you talk about the objectification of a person, it has to be in a very tangible manner. This can be as simple as someone's sexual tendencies or his openly-expressed thoughts about those he objectifies. But to criticize the private thoughts of an individual, especially when they have no consequence, is a poor example of objectification. Granted, writing erotica is far from private, but we do live in a time where, by creating an online persona, we can create separate lives that have no meaning in the lives we actually lead.
In a sense, I think it's important for you to recognize that the things that happen here, on the Internet as a whole, act as a poor representation of the thoughts of the individuals behind the screens. I, for example, have no sisters and never will, yet enjoy material dealing with related subjects. Many others are in similar positions, and especially when you're dealing with situations that are strictly impossible, like nearly every interactive on this site, you have to learn that people are aware of the line between reasonable behaviour and fantastical desire. Our fantasies have nothing to do with converting people's mindsets to ones that objectify the characters and belittle the importance of genuine relationships. They simply act as an outlet, a moment of temporary self-indulgence similar to having a crush as a child or daydreaming at work. The consequence is some wasted time and a good feeling, nothing more for most practical people.
Of course, I'll preface this by admitting that these stories are something I mostly enjoy because I find them arousing. And I've contributed to a fair number of scenarios that are taboo, by no stretch of the mind. But I'm also not someone whose life and behaviours have been consumed by this recreation. I, along with most people who look at this material, don't let this type of thing influence my personality or sexual habits. It's an escape, nothing else.
This is important because when you talk about the objectification of a person, it has to be in a very tangible manner. This can be as simple as someone's sexual tendencies or his openly-expressed thoughts about those he objectifies. But to criticize the private thoughts of an individual, especially when they have no consequence, is a poor example of objectification. Granted, writing erotica is far from private, but we do live in a time where, by creating an online persona, we can create separate lives that have no meaning in the lives we actually lead.
In a sense, I think it's important for you to recognize that the things that happen here, on the Internet as a whole, act as a poor representation of the thoughts of the individuals behind the screens. I, for example, have no sisters and never will, yet enjoy material dealing with related subjects. Many others are in similar positions, and especially when you're dealing with situations that are strictly impossible, like nearly every interactive on this site, you have to learn that people are aware of the line between reasonable behaviour and fantastical desire. Our fantasies have nothing to do with converting people's mindsets to ones that objectify the characters and belittle the importance of genuine relationships. They simply act as an outlet, a moment of temporary self-indulgence similar to having a crush as a child or daydreaming at work. The consequence is some wasted time and a good feeling, nothing more for most practical people.
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May 12, 2023
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